Most of us would like to be able to move on more quickly from past hurts, to let bygones be bygones.
‘The man with insight enough to accept his limitations comes closest to perfection.’
Today we will explore Zen teacher Thich Nhat Hanh’s five stages of dealing with emotions, which have some additional steps to the RAIN practice which can be very helpful.
RAIN is a four step process which can help us transform how we approach our emotions.
‘Anybody can become angry – that is easy, but to be angry with the right person and to the right degree and at the right time and for the right purpose, and in the right way – that is not within everybody’s power and is not easy.’ Aristotle
There are many ways of increasing our sense of efficacy, the feeling that we can make a positive difference in life, but one of the most important is actually just knowing when to ask for help.
Although we all strive for happiness, I often find contentment a more useful concept to think about. It is more stable than happiness, less dependent on external triggers.
‘He who knows others is wise; he who knows himself is enlightened.’ ― Lao Tzu
The parable of the second arrow is a well-known Buddhist story about dealing with suffering more skilfully.
In his poem ‘The guest house’, the Sufi poet Rumi invites us to metaphorically open ourselves up to all visitors, just like a guest house which doesn’t get to choose who stays the night.