The problem for many of us is that our nervous systems have become less adept at moving smoothly between a state of relaxation and a state of activation.
‘Nourishing our spirit’ is the final of Christopher Germer’s ‘Five pathways to self-compassion’.
If we think back to our happiest childhood memories, they were often times when someone kind spent time with us in a way which showed care, respect, and friendliness.
‘The cat ignored becomes the tiger.’ Carl Jung
One of the easiest way we can allow our bodies to soften is by using our breath.
‘A tree that cannot bend will crack in the wind. The hard and stiff will be broken; the soft and supple will prevail.’ Lao Tzu
‘Although our personal experience may tell us otherwise, self-compassion is the most natural thing in the world.’
In his poem ‘The guest house’, the Sufi poet Rumi invites us to metaphorically open ourselves up to all visitors, just like a guest house which doesn’t get to choose who stays the night.